To connect with ourselves, feel grounded, and tune in, a wonderful place to start is by practicing a self-care ritual. When you perform a ritual with intention behind it, it allows you to truly be in the moment– this is a stress relief tactic all on its own. It’s quite different than a habit, or routine, which is something like washing your hands after using the restroom. A ritual has intention behind it because it’s more deliberate. Intention is a very powerful tool, mainly because it uses the power of the mind. Let’s not underestimate the power of the mind we all innately possess, as it can help us get through anything. Here is a ritual involving herbs for self-love.

herbs for self-love with arielle hayatAvena Sativa

A special herbal ally for self-care is Avena Sativa aka Oats or “Fresh Milky Oats.” Oats are a supreme nervous system tonic that truly restores a depleted nervous system. The seeds are used as medicine during the fresh milky stage (different from the mature seed used to make oatmeal).

The straw, or oat grass is highly nutritious, often overlooked by the general population but is essentially a local superfood packed with chromium, silicon, vitamin A, iron, selenium, b vitamins, vitamin C and more. The two parts of the plant used as medicine, a) milky oat seed  and b) oat straw are often prepared differently. Both provide nourishment that allows you to reconnect with your essential self.


Milky Oat Seed is often prepared fresh in a glycerine or alcohol tincture. The alkaloids are best extracted in the alcohol, and water soluble minerals in the glycerine. The Oat Straw is prepared as an infusion with 1oz of herb to 4 cups just boiled water steeped overnight. This makes 3-4 cups, which is great to drink daily. The long steep really allows the therapeutic grade materials of the plant to be extracted into the water.

These two remedies help overcome hyper-reactive emotional states, and other kinds of severe stressors by simply providing nourishment to the body. One of my teachers told me, “Use Milky Oat Seed Tincture for a person with crying jags” another specific indication for a depleted emotional state. I also love milky oat seed tincture for neuropathy or other nerve troubles, as it is “trophorestorative” and helps the nervous system repair itself to optimal function. That would make Oats helpful for long term improvements and benefits of the body and mind.

Incorporating Oats Into Your Self-Care

Perform an act of self care by making a deliberate ritual of preparing Oats as medicine. Allow the medicine of oats, and the preparation soothe and calm your nervous system. Take 2-5ml of Milky Oats tincture 3x a day. Or drink around 3 cups of an 8 hour infusion of oatstraw daily for 3-6 weeks.

For more herbs for self-love, check out The Alchemist’s Kitchen’s Season of Love Collection here

Arielle Hayat

Arielle Hayat of @arielletheherbalist is a clinical herbalist with three years of intensive training from Arbor Vitae School of Traditional Herbalism in New York City. She completed her 1000 hour apprenticeship with 30+ year Wise Woman herbalist Lata Kennedy of Flower Power Herbs and Roots focusing on the Six Steps of Healing of the Wise Woman Tradition. She continues to work at Flower Power and there she is able to empower and guide numerous people in her community to a healthier lifestyle that focuses on wellness from the inside out. Arielle has a private consult practice, (link and teaches weekly workshops at wellness haven, The Alchemist's Kitchen. She also is a founding member of Sacred Lotus Yoni Steam ( as a clinical herbalist formulating steam blends for feminine health. Her education in natural plant medicine weaves the methodologies of Chinese medicine, Ayurveda, Native American folk, European herbalism, and The Wise Woman tradition (the oldest tradition of healing on our planet) to nourish the mind, body and soul of her clientele. Arielle's specialty lies in protocols for helping the body adapt to stress, healing mental wounds caused by the affects of tension and anxiety. She also sees clients with issues related to gut/ digestion, viral infections, adrenals, hormones and more. Through their work together, Arielle's clients rediscover their inner peace, and can experience profound emotional and physical transformation. Her website is

  1. Thank you so much for this very helpful and informative post. I will be trying milky oat seed for the first time and I’m excited to the results! Much love and gratitude 💚💚💚

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